A rule that I’ve lived by for a long time is when you don’t know what to do, when the path is not clear, THEN YOU DO NOTHING. You take NO action on that thing. Table it and move on to something else (which might just be a nap!).
This is a period of waiting, a period of rest, contemplation, slowing down or active recovery. It’s a time that is the opposite of the “force of action”.
It’s so important to remember this when you’ve had periods of internal destabilization, meaning everything seems chaotic or confusing. Maybe you just had a bodywork session, you received bad news, you are integrating a new routine, you ate something that’s not usually “on your menu”, you just spent time in a crowd of people, or maybe you just suddenly feel BLAH and have no known reason for it.
It’s Normal to Ebb and Flow
Maybe you’ve just had a period of real clarity and productivity that felt really good like you were moving forward, making progress, and everything was right on track… And now suddenly, that has shifted, and you don’t know what to do. You’re left wondering, what’s going on? Where am I? (And any number of questions/explicatives may arise!) THIS IS A NORMAL PART OF BEING HUMAN (in case you hadn’t figured that out yet!).
When we lack clarity, it’s ALWAYS a call to pull back and WAIT. Take our foot OFF the gas for awhile and coast. And please tell your inner critic that LACK OFACTION doesn’t equal INACTION. Resting, observing, getting more data, waiting for things to line up, sitting quietly are ALL forms of action… albeit they are passive, and sometimes necessary, actions.
AGAIN, let me state…
When you don’t know what to do, do nothing.
When the decision is not clear, don’t make a decision.
It has also been said, “when there is a doubt, there is no doubt”…
There’s wisdom here!
TOOLS to use when you don’t know what to do…
Remind yourself to turn inside and use resources that you already have or that aresimple and easy to access:
- making a list
- Taking a walk
- Yoga or stretching
- Meditation or just quietly contemplating
- Reading (nothing stressful or “news”!!!)
- Cleaning (even if you just spend 5 minutes and take out the trash, start a load of laundry, sweep the floor, etc)
- Essential oils
- Light language (if you don’t speak it, then go onto your favorite social media or video platform and look some up)
- Pull cards from an affirmation, tarot or oracle deck
- Prayers, affirmations or solfeggio frequencies
- Crafts or other hobbies
- Anything that you really like and you haven’t done in a while. Go pick it up again.
Do your best not to fall into using OLD, unproductive tools that throw you back into a bad pattern or loop** like addictive one like medications, smoking, “recreational” drugs, caffeine, sex, etc.
**They say it takes 66 days to form a new habit. So don’t give up so fast this time…